Sometimes it’s just not about you. Well in this case, not about me.

I recently had a moment with my mother where I explained what I didn’t like or what I didn’t enjoy. And she kindly gave me the reminder back that sometimes it’s just not about me.

Have you had moments where someone overly explains something and you’re like, “yes, yes, I got it”. Well sometimes that person can be me and just overly explains because I think you didn’t understand what I meant because I’m not the best in explaining and don’t know when to shut up. But sometimes the person explains everything in detail because the person itself needs it. Maybe in need of a talk, company, to be heard, to just go off or vent. Sometimes the person is getting older and notices the signs of forgetfulness and just doesn’t want to forget things and so explains everything in detail. Sometimes it’s not about you or me, but about them.

Have you had a moment where a person was short to you or not very kind? Maybe that person is just got some bad news, or maybe that person isn’t treated well at home or at work and hasn’t seen a lot of examples of how else to react. Maybe that person is battling a sickness and just has a ‘low day’. Sometimes it’s not about you or me, but about them.

Have you had a moment where a person forgot to invite you to a party or to some kind of happening? Maybe that person has a lot on his and her head, maybe lots of things are happening, maybe that person is just a human being and forgot one person out of the tens or hundreds others. Sometimes it’s not about you or me, but about them.

Have you had someone asked you several times if you understood what they said? Maybe it’s not because you make a weird face or they think you are stupid or something, but because they feel they didn’t explain something well enough or that what they really are trying to say is not coming out as they thought it would so they continue to explain and then wonder, did you understand? And so also ask if you did.. maybe a million times. Sometimes it’s not about you or me, but about them.

Have you had someone look at you with a passive face, no reaction, no emotion, and even kind of looks mad? It can be that this person is in pain and trying to suppress it but sometimes frowns either way. Or this person is tired, overly tired even, and the face just doesn’t have energy or the strength to give you a smile or a proper smirk. Sometimes it’s not about you or me, but about them.

My whole point is, to remember that sometimes it’s not about you or me. Sometimes the other person is having a bad day or is going through something and it just has nothing to do with us, who we are, who we are to that person or how that person feels towards us. Just remember that and think about it when the time comes.

And sometimes, a person is just not very nice. Then be nice either way.

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